Asian Lite is marking Holy Month of Ramadan with a new column by Masarat Daud. Ramadan Musings will reflect on the Holy Month and will carry comments on relevant issues concerning the Muslim community
Here we are, two weeks in. Two weeks left. You could look at it either way but both choices offer very different perspectives. The past could be disappointing, but the future offers hope. It also offers a moment of acknowledgement at how quickly time is moving; it seems like yesterday that I had written the first piece of this series.
What have we learnt in two weeks? What have we felt in two weeks?
For me, what’s striking is the notion of a slow life. At this mid-point, we sit back and think: what am I doing differently now that I don’t actually do on any other regular day? It is a great time to be alive, to see great changes and progression taking place. But, what are we giving up to embrace this life?
We are giving up spending time with our children, going for a leisurely walk; we are giving up spending extra, moments of nothingness with our partners, we are giving up cooking a meal. So many little, big things.
We may call this ‘slowing down’ but a decade or two ago, this was simply a regular life. I am not seeking retrospective utopia but the experience of being human does not change as fast as our lifestyle does. Certain things are the essence of life and many times, those seem to be in crisis.
This is our reflection: what am I giving up for all that I have? What is the trade-off? Is it worth it?
In the Islamic context, death is integral to reflections. We are driven by the consequences of our actions after our death, so, on a morbid note, the question is that when it’s all over, are we going to say ‘that was a great run’? Are we content and happy where we are? There are no bridges we have burnt, no unfulfilled promises, no pending favours, no thankyous left unsaid, no love lost. While a 100% success rate is unlikely, but we can stay closer to a decent percentage instead of sliding to an abysmal figure.
Or maybe, simplifying it to one question, to be asked at any point in time: Is it a good time to go?
The goal then, is to live a life with less regret. Do not confuse it with living a life with no mistakes. Both are different. Regrets are moments we simply couldn’t reconcile with. It’s good to throw those out of our lives.
Next two weeks, bring it on!
(Masarat Daud is many things. A girl’s education campaigner, a TED speaker, a TEDx curator, a recent SOAS MA graduate and a politically-incorrect humourist currently based in London)
Masarat Daud is many things. A girl’s education campaigner, a TED speaker, a TEDx curator, a recent SOAS MA graduate and a politically-incorrect humourist currently based in London.