Asian Lite is marking Holy Month of Ramadan with a new column by Masarat Daud
When you spend an entire month consistently hearing your inner voice that is usually drowned out by the noise of our daily lives, we realise that our goal each day is to find and practice positivity. Persistently. A deep reflection brings us back to the importance of gratitude. This then reminds us of the importance of being positive always. It is not simply a mask we wear but we must train ourselves in seeing the light through the darkest skies.
I heard Rabbi Laura Janner-Klausner on the radio talking about Tim Peake staring into the pitch-black nothingness of space and in such moments, what can we remember to help us see the light?
As I grow older, I find myself losing patience with people who have turned their whines and complaints into a comfort zone for the self. It is draining to be around such people no matter how close they are to us. Each day is everyone’s individual battle to be happy and in the name of relationships and friendships, some people can bring us down and turn us into bitter, resentful people.
It has taken me years of practice to cultivate a positive mindset. Yet, it takes only a moment to bring us to square one: why is this person happy when I was not? This is when we stop ourselves at once and end the negative thought process. It is a daily struggle, a daily jihad to remain positive and grateful.
I used to give a lot of time to my friends who whined about their daily lives because I thought it was my duty as a friend. While I am still available for them, I have simply tweaked my strategy. I am not interested in gossip or melodrama and after hearing a summary of events, I jump to the main question: Ok, this is the problem, now let’s talk about what the possible solutions could be. The remaining conversations that take place simply focus on solving the problem instead of indulging in a loop of self-pity and gossip.
The world rests on positive actions and vibes. Negativity would have ended our lives much earlier. We must keep the faith that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that this difficulty will pass because life is ever-moving, never stagnating. If yesterday was wasted, then the present and the tomorrow are still an opportunity to improve things.
It is all about perspective. Some can look at our lives and marvel at how we made it through the thick. Only we know that sometimes there is no choice but to brave through the thick, because negativity and giving up is not an option. This is nothing but faith; to believe that there is positivity even though it is a struggle to see it in the current times. This faith is the real strength of our hearts.
(Masarat Daud is many things. A girl’s education campaigner, a TED speaker, a TEDx curator, a recent SOAS MA graduate and a politically-incorrect humourist currently based in London)