In my experience it is mainly the women in our society who condition their daughters to be controlled firstly in their fathers household and then in their husbands household. We are married and the subservience continues…writes Narender Kaur
After the harrowing reports of the rapes recently in India the question of the backward mind set of the vast populous of India is perplexing. The question has to be asked, who is going to make the most pivotal and effective change? Is it politicians, is it the police, is it the faceless general public? There are a number of factors one of which is the absolute disregard by some for those that they consider to be less equal.
The cast system is the underlying licence to discriminate and abuse the so called lower castes. A society that condones loutish and discriminatory behaviour is bridling itself with a problem which will simply not be resolved. The other matter which I believe is important is for the mothers of India to take control. In some sectors of society girls from birth are treated as second class citizens. Girls as children are not aware of this and only by getting an education are they able to rationalise this for themselves. We become subservient to maternal controls which exist in our communities.
In my experience it is mainly the women in our society who condition their daughters to be controlled firstly in their fathers household and then in their husbands household. We are married and the subservience continues. The vast majority of girls are conditioned to confuse respect with subservience. Wake up ladies, stand up for yourselves. Educate your husband if he needs to be told that you are a person and deserve to be treated with respect and in return you will treat his family with respect. Demand that your husband treats you as an equal and set an example for your children.
Most importantly teach your sons to respect you and your daughters in everything that they say and do. Mothers are the first female contact for boys, if your son respects you then he will more than likely respect other women as well. Do not allow yourself to be weak and bullied. Make your children accountable for what they do. Do not let them think that what they do outside of home does not matter. Most of all do your best to raise decent, honourable citizens of the future. After all what is your legacy when you are gone? Look at India’s shameful legacy at present. Has civilisation really passed India by?